One of the most fucked up things

to ever happen in life, would be to have the guy you like fall for your best friend, no?

It sucks for so many reasons I don't even know where to begin. It sucks because it bruises your ego, it sucks because it causes a tension between you and your friend, and you start to think bad, evil stuff about your friend that you'd never have dreamt you would (i.e: What is so good about her? Her ass is so fat blah blah). It sucks because you can't sleep thinking - what if my friend likes him back? And would I lose her because of this ... etc.

The story of F and L comes into account here.

It happened so long ago, when we were just 17. F and Wong came to look for me while I was working for Ascend part-time (it's a shampoo brand and I was promoting it), and we had dinner together at KFC.

L and his bunch of friends were sitting a few metres away at that fruitful suntec outlet, and they were, well, blatantly staring.

If not for the fact that I was the only girl sitting facing them and F and Wong had their backs towards the guys, I'd never have even started to contemplate that L might have been looking at me.

Because F is so much prettier, and I know it.

But I sincerely did think he might have been looking at me.

And that made me very happy, because L was, then, dream guy material! He was totally what I'd sketch out on foolscap paper - the M hair (long fringe, centre parting. A bit toot now yes, but it was yr 2001 ok!), two dimples, bell bottomed jeans (retro sia!), and a white tee. All he needed was a pretty horse to prance on.

I had an eye and mouth feast that day at dinner, but of course, I didn't expect any follow-up actions.

When the three of us walked out to send me back to work, we found L's friend standing outside KFC waiting, and he swaggered (I have a vague impression he did coz he was an ah beng) over to us. L was nowhere to be seen.

That guy kept his eyes on F, and I was skipping inside, thinking that if he gets F's number then I can hit on L! Yay!

But no, he said that he was just helping L get F's number, which F did give in the end (I think because I asked her to).

I got genuinely depressed after that. Why is it that things like this happen? I started directing at anger at superficial men, which is totally unreasonable because 1) I cannot expect L to see beyond looks from a KFC dinner and 2) the only reason why I am feeling jealous is because I like him and he is handsome.

Since F had a boyfriend then and she was not interested in L, I told her to tell L that her number is about to be terminated, and to call me on my hp number (note for the slow: It means impersonation).

My plan was to play a prank on L. Very childish one ok, tell you first. I was to continue talking to him on the phone till he tells me that he likes me, in which after that I'd exclaim, "but you only like me because of my looks!" and after which he'd say, No, after talking for so many days he likes me coz of my character and after which I'd say, "so even if I am not pretty you'd still like me?" and after which he'd be obligated to say "Yes" and I'd go like, "TADAH! I am not F, I am YANYAN THAT UGLY GIRL WAHAHAHA!"

Very boh liao right.

So anyway, in case you wanted to know the plan flopped after two hours. I was talking to him, impersonating F's face with my own information, which meant that he thought F was working for Ascend as well. Which I think she actually did anyway.

Let's not go into confusing logistics now.

As it is I am not a dishonest person, and I did not feel good about lying. In any case my plan was brilliant to me then, and I wanted to share it with anyone I can talk to, which was only L. But of course I can't tell him about it.

So anyway, there he was telling me about the chemistry he felt for me and so on, and HE INSISTED ON COMING TO FIND ME AT WORK THE NEXT DAY (which I stupidly mentioned the venue)!!

Horrifying. If he comes, he'd find only me, and the expected disappointed face is more than I can bear. God did I feel lousy. Inferior and ugly, among other worse emotions.

After talking some more, I burst out the truth, and I think L was disgusted with that little, erm, harmless? prank.

Nonetheless, he was quite empathetic and was still civil to me. I whimpered, "So you not coming tomorrow already is it?", conveniently forgetting that he'd be obligated to say yes if I asked in that forlorn manner.

And so he did. It was a horrible dinner. He told me later that night that it is not about the looks but about the chemistry. He said he tried, but it just didn't feel correct.

I feel like "yeah right"ing, but I can see his POV (as in F and I were very different in character and the general "feel"), although it also stands that no normal guy would feel outright (only based on looks) chemistry for an ugly chick lah, cmon. Who are we kidding?

A month passed. L and I are no longer in contact (if truth be told, I didn't really get along that well with him, and yes, I admit there was a lack of chemistry). F has also broken up with her then boyfriend.

One day, I was out with F and we were supposed to meet a bunch of her friends. She couldn't answer her phone while it rang in the cubicle, so she passed it to me underneath the door.

By the time I answered, it had stopped ringing. I naturally pressed to see whose call I missed, and the whole list of missed calls appeared.

L's name was there.

I stood there stunned for a moment, and I asked, "You still keep in contact with L?!"

She mumbled yes, why? She then admited that she has been talking to him sometimes, but didn't tell me coz she is scared I get angry.

And angry I was. It wasn't the fact that she was talking to him, but that she delibrately hid it from me.

After a few weeks, they got together. She asked me if I am ok, but I don't really think I was. I don't know what is it that made me feel so lousy - maybe it was a slight sense of betrayal that she'd date someone whom I liked, or maybe I just felt lousy about myself....

Our friendship deteriorated from then on. I thought they'd last for a few months and things would mull over. But no ... It went on for four years and with the absence of contact for such a long period, we just cannot get back the closeness we used to share.

Yet I cannot blame her. Who am I to stop her from liking and being with him?

Up till today, that incident still makes me rather sad. Grey skies, lonely rooms and cellulite. =(

And well, that's only one occasion. Of course, some of you know that Adryan used to like F too. Some of you might be thinking, FUCK LAH, learn your lesson and stop hanging out with very good looking girls lah! But no! I am a fucking moth, I am. I get burned on one wing, and I get very angry and sit down at one corner and sulk while complaining to Shuyin on my starhub phone, then I decide to flutter to candlelight again and burn my leg.

Time and again it happens. Me introduce guy I like to girlfriend, guy falls for girlfriend. Whoop! So fun! Let's do it again! Me introduce guy I like to girlfriend, guy falls for girlfriend. Again, again!

STOP IT ALREADY!

It's not only F... In primary school it was another really pretty best friend, in secondary school it was F, then in poly it was June. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

"Hey your friend very pretty leh, can I get to know her?" NO! SHUT UP AND GO FUCK YOURSELF WITH A CACTUS YOU FUCKING HORNY BASTARD!!!

Tamade.

What's my point?

My point is now, I am very paranoid about the guys I like liking my girlfriends. I get reminded of my painful past experiences, and I don't want to go near that ever again.

It causes tension, it causes pain, I'd never recover from the ego bruise --- and I might lose my girlfriend. Double that, because it is fucking DUI that I WAS THE IDIOT WHO INTRODUCED THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE.

I introduced the guy I like to a girlfriend recently. Did I already said I am an incorrigible fucking stupid moth?

I realised that although they both behaved very normally (in fact far less touchy than they usually would have done - for my sake), I get super paranoid whenever they touch, or sit particularly close, or what's not. It gets on my nerves so much that I spiral into a horrible mood everytime it happens.

On the other hand, I did mention to the two of them that I don't like them being close, but who I am to command them to do anything for me? The guy is not my boyfriend (things have not changed so much for dream guy --- he still has the two dimples though not, thankfully, anything else mentioned above).

But I have a very good theory about this. There is, I always say, no need to bother about who is right and who is wrong, because it is not definitive.

There is, however, a certain known fact: which is that I'd get upset when they are close. Whether or not I have a right to get upset is one thing, but it remains true that if they know I'd get upset and still do it anyway, they have a blatantly disregard for my feelings -- which is just mean.

When she wanted to take a photo with him (nothing wrong with that), she and him secretly did the series of photos while I was not around (was in another room comforting another friend).

I'd got nothing to say for the guy, because guys would be guys. Maybe he enjoys the attention in the form of jealousy, or maybe he feels that me being upset if not reason enough for him to deprive himself of the normal stuff he does, or maybe he doesn't know I'd be that upset. I'd wouldn't know. So be it lor. I also lan lan right?

But I am really disappointed with my girlfriend.

It doesn't matter that it is mere photo taking and there is nothing wrong with hugging each other during photo taking sessions, but fact remains that SHE KNOWS that I wouldn't like it (and she promised no flirting with him before she met him. Some might argue that photo taking is not flirting, but certainly even an idiot can tell that the connotations and basis of "not flirting" is that I do not want him to fall for her - meaning she shouldn't flaunt herself, show herself to be overtly available and easy, or do anything that might tempt him. In other words, her body language shld always be: I AM NOT INTERESTED IN YOU) and still went ahead to do it anyway. Worst still, behind my back.

But well, she apologized. Still, not something I can just forget.

I fucking hate being ugly. Ok maybe not ugly, coz I am really pretty, but well, apparently not good enough. Fucking hell. Well, if you are thinking what is the link between this paragraph and the last paragraph (since the guy I like did not fall for my girlfriend, thank goodness), it is that if I were so goddamn perfect, I'd never doubt myself, if not about character then at least that he is more attracted to her physically than to me. Then they can flirt all I want and I'd be like, "Who cares, check out my kickass tits!" and go around curling my hair as per normal.

But no.


- A friend once told me, "But you are not common and normal, you are a celebrity." And I replied, "Yeah but the only reason why I became a celebrity, is because the world likes to read how common and normal I am." -

Comments

defy angel said…
Cheer up gal! Whatever is urs will be urs!
Xiaxue said…
Bah! So cliched.............
It sucks, isn't it? But there's really nothing much you can do. Just have to blame it on the "suay" thing that you meet such superficial guys and have such "disloyal" friends.

*shrugs*
Eza Doll said…
hey, ur situation is sooo SIMILIAR TO MINE. *sobs.

We are really not the middle-class people right...

they have yet to uncover. Haiz..

anyways, ur theory and thoughts are similiar to mine but i juz donno how to elaborate that much..

Puuurrrfect~ have a gd day sweets
Xiaxue said…
The guy might not be superficial what ... He might just like her for being her or soemthing... Hiyah, dunno la.
:: !ping :: said…
dont... be so sad.
yuuyami suicide said…
aiyoh, i also kanna before. the girl know i like the guy, she go chase the guy, hold him kiss him etc, then both of them together, they also dont wanna tell me. then they break up liao, the guy ask me 'eh u know we broke up right'
wah. lanlan sia. what matters now is that if its yours, it wil be yours eventually. who knows, there might be a guy that you intro to pretty girl friends that doesnt like them but like you instead :)
thepattycakes said…
It always good to have a bunch of good girlfriends that you can rely on. Sometimes things just turn sour and we've gotta clear up the mess that we 'created'.
Guys come and go but girlfriends stay.
(:
reb said…
guys like that do not tend to like intellectual girls (or girls who think a lot) very much...
would you rather be smart and lonely, or ignorant but romantically happy?
luzzio said…
Some people who are shallow aren't worth your time leh... looks will detiorate. Personality doesn't. Though yours is pretty scary, i must admit :P

Cheer up.
Elaine said…
well xx, i totally understand what you're talking about. fucking things like that happens to me pretty often. innocently thinking my friend would help bring the crush and i closer, ends up the crush and my friend being so close. sigh. it just sucks doesn't it?

men.
tian xia de wu ya yi ban hei.
shahidah said…
suay ar? i also was in that situation before... pfft.. and the most idiotic thing was, the girl is not a friend, oh no. it was my bloody cousin. the one i grew up with. it's no fault of hers that she grew up to be h-o-t-t HOTT, but. well. as you said. bruise to ego. try again. bruise again. blargh.
Unknown said…
:| do you know that there are alot of girls out there who are dying to be in your shoes?

or do you feel that the men fans you have are not real enough?

perhaps.

but i get you.. GUYS SHOULD NEVER ENQUIRE ABOUT A PRETTY FRIEND. GUYS SHOULD DO THEIR OWN RESEARCH. It's just common courtesy.
bowsnhearts said…
Once bitten twice shy. I guess it's safe to apply that cliche saying in this case, you are not alone. It takes a tremendous amount of effort just to ease (I am not sure about the pain totally disappearing) the pain. Well, growing up is about accepting the past...but easier said than done. I just wish to say, look on the bright side...in this way, you can truly find a guy who admires you for your qualities, not your looks. It may take ages to ease the bruise but do remember you still have your readers backing you up :) ...Best of wishes...
the commoner said…
She mumbled yes, why? She then admited that she has been talking to him sometimes, but didn't tell me coz she is scared I get angry.


Grammatical error here? Hee.......... I sent you an email a couple of days back using the nick "Ghuxor"
eyiew said…
I fucking hate being ugly. Ok maybe not ugly, coz I am really pretty,
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lol so is this a joke or a rant?
Sweet_Mocca said…
Oh my... this is so sad. One of the saddest situations. Never mind losing a guy who might never be meant for u... but betrayed by a gf? how sad...
HaMz said…
Qin Ren Yan Li chu Si Shi. =)
Sometimes expectation brings a person down really hard. But hey... it's part of growing up ^^ it alters our character, our behavior towards certain things, thoughts and stuff. And that's what makes a person unique.
You are unique in your own ways, and i'm certain that some guy close to you likes you alot ^^

And not only girls get that kind of expirience >.< men do aswell... *Sigh...*

Nothing comes easy...
pinklolli said…
i understand how u feel. it happened to me recently. though i did not intro those 2, it feels juz as horrible. the sense of betrayal is overwhelming. she knew right from the start how i felt and even when i told her, i wasn't happy when the 2 of them got chummy, she gave me her assurances. turns out i trusted her too much.

from my closest circle of frens no less. a decade of frenship. the emotional struggle i went thru. been 4 months and still i can't forget nor forgive.

my mtd of handling this matter was denial and still is. juz sweep everything under the carpet. i juz dun want it to affect me again.

i definitely find myself putting up a barrier b/w us. trust is gone i guess.

we can only start picking up the pieces from here. albeit slowly.
Yangming said…
You are probably more special than you think you are. The fact that you get 8000+ readers everyday says it for itself.

I, for one out the 8k, do not find you common and normal at all. And there should be many others like me amongst your readers. Also, what "the diary girl" said is very true. =)

If it makes you feel better, although you are pretty, your works (writings) prolly inspire me more than your looks.
mugster said…
I get what you mean, it sometimes sucks having pretty friends. But you know what? A true friend would not go for the guy whom you like, even if he turns out to be right for her. It's just integrity, I guess.
andrea said…
hey! alwiz read ur blog but never leave comments. anywayz, ur not ugly la. compared to tons of gurls out there i say ur above average. dun sound so depressed!! and it shows that ur friend is not a worthy one, so no use keeping any of those biatches. cheers!! :)
Unknown said…
Well, I am sure there will be a guy who will appreciate you for the way you are.
nimezs said…
C'est la vie, I guess. Whether or not it's right for a friend to go after someone you like depends. Everyone has a different take on it.
The hardest thing to do would be to give them your blessings - but, as a friend to both parties, would you not want them to be happy? I believe that it's better for one person to be unhappy than two, even if that person happens to be you.
cheekysalsera said…
(first comment here, heh)

Girl, seriously, are your friendships worth giving up for your ego? Bruised or not, you will always have your ego, but you will not always have your friends with you.

I understand your perspective. It's not about them actually doing the things you don't like, it's the choice to not share them with you. Because friends should be able to share everything, even about the things they don't like each other to do.

Just take it as your friends didn't know better (and the guys in question know even less, unfortunately). Honestly, withdrawing from them leaves no chance for your emotional wounds to heal, as well as for your friendship to improve by actually clarifying everything and giving things another shot...



Anw, on love and guys etc...

Be confident and just be yourself, don't let your insecurities bug you. You might not feel confident everyday, you might not feel like showing how you feel like, etc. That's ok, it's human.

The guys who're really worth having in your life (well, I believe you have a choice, but you can only choose to be serious with one...) will be the ones who want to see you and let you be yourself, even when you don't want to or feel like it.



Insecurities will always trip you up and make you feel like you're imperfect and sorely lacking somewhere. So what? We're all imperfect. But imperfection is not an excuse to let our own insecurities ruin our perception of life for us and prevent us from living it happily, confidently and to the fullest.

Maybe you're common and normal. But what makes people common and normal, is that they're special in subtle ways.

You're not pretty, you're gorgeous. You just need to find someone who thinks so, even when you don't feel like it ;)
jyh said…
Seriously, there's not call betrayal you see.
Stand at her point :) She's got the right to choose whoever she want to be as long as the opposite is NOT taken, and she didn't use any bitchy methods to take him away. The first thing is that, the guy does like F, so if F develops feelings for him, they're together, i really find that there's nothing wrong.
You can like L, so does she. It doesn't matters who like who first. :)

And there isn't only L in this freaking world, so alot more, even better than L, just yet to meet that particular person. AND she's hiding it from you cause she cares about your feeling, if she don't, she will just show it off infront of you, she wants to keep this friendship.

Oh well, thats what i think.
kken said…
Funny aint it??Humans are a capricious and unpredictable lot.Therefore fretting aint gonna help...Ppl says that inner beauty counts but what that didnt say is that first impression counts more??right??imagine infrnt of you stands 2 guys...one suave dude with a f* up attitude while another is a fugly guy with a heart of gold...go with ur instincts...whom would you be interested to talk to first?

Anyway..just my two cents worth...i know it aint gonna alleviate any of ur sorrows...but hey..then again...beauty is in the eye of the beholder.very cliche but still,hold truee...maybe that one destined guy is waiting waiting for you out there.hahha...all da best.=)
starfish story said…
i always have girl friends who are super pretty WITH super good figure.

unfortunately, i'm not like them. >.<
chanel said…
comeon you're lots prettier than many pple cheer up! those pple dunno how to appreciate what they got... all humans always want sth better even when what they got was already good enough.
lingling_verin said…
I personally had this experience before. My girlfriends would ask me out and introduce their guy fren to me. After everything ended and i got home, my friend gave them my number without me knowing and the guys would always start calling me and asking me out. Then, i would tell my friend everything they said and even that the guys ask me out. This was to prevent any miscommunication between me and my friends. I do everything to give the"im not interested look". Like, i would reject their calls and even reject my friend's invitation to go out whenever they are there. But the guys would continue pestering me even after i ask told them not to pester me. Sometimes i said"you like my friend. Remember?" and they would say, but now i dont like her anymore. Or even say i never liked her before. She just thinks that i do when i don't. At the end, it sour my friendship with my friends too. Im really very sad such things happen. But my girl friend just fail to see that im not trying to snatch their guy friends. Everytime, after my girlfriend wanted to break the friendship, i would feel sad. At the end, the guys got tired and stop their pestering. This proofs that im not snatching anyone's bf. so i think you should see if its really your friend's fault.
J Schnorng said…
You know, Miss Cheng, while it doesn't take a lot of skill or brains to be normal (I should know, seeing as to how fucking normal I am), it takes a lot of skill to write about being normal, and even more skill to write something worth reading about being normal. Again, I should know, because I tried, and I always fail. There's a reason why my blog is all about random stupid shit and hot babes, and that reason is, that I figure I can't portray my life in an interesting enough way that anyone would want to read about it.

That, of course, and the fact that I can't disclose all the scandalous information about my drug deals / mass orgies / romantic escapades with movie stars - scarly my parents see then how?

That being said, though, you're now a star, leh, miss! While you may be an internet star, you are still a star! There are surely many many yandao fans who will climb Mt. Bukit Timah and scale the walls of Tang Dynasty Village for your luscious curls! I'd nominate myself, but then, seeing as to how I'm not yandao, and also don't want to do anything vaguely reminiscent of SOC for at least another 2 years while I recover from the trauma that was NS, I will just have to find someone else to climb walls in my stead.

So yah, don't be pissed off, lah. Going to be your birthday soon, leh - after this can go to movie and see neh neh,leh! Somemore if you came to America to visit, you'd be legal age to drink, you know! So shiok! The future is bright lah, so don't worry, be happy, and keep blogging, yah?

Regards,
J
ELFeN said…
maybe da rite one havent come yet.

well. if they want u to be jealous.
dun Be.
it will show how generous u r.

hee.
joemichel said…
Yo, it's J from the accessories shop in Bugis. I may not be able to understand what you are going through now, but I feel for you. I've had situationsss (all with my ex best friend) like this in the past, and it has caused the end of our friendship. A very important thing to note: When you meet someone you like and would like to 'bed' him, make sure no friends knows about him. Put him in your 'bag' for a few months, then start showing him off to your friends. You get what I'm saying? Please excuse my English, it's a bit poor. Next time come to the shop and I'll tell you all about it. Oh ya, new stocks should be in this weekend. Hope to see you then. =)
twinkle said…
u have F's pic for us to see?? pls pls~~ wud luv to c wats so *special* bout her
heeee =D
Stephanie said…
Dont feel inferior girl.
you are not ugly
moreover you are smart. I always think that pretty girls sometimes do not have the brains and they lack of it. I am not impressed by them.
I am more impressed with girls who are not very pretty but very smart.
Im sure someone will appreciate you one day. You know, if he's looking on the exterior and do not enjoy your company, the guy's not worth it.

I think ive encountered worst. Ive got an ex who after ditching me, got an uglier girl after me.

So. Be confident.
Confidence is what makes a lady beautiful. Dont let anything pull you down.

;)
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andy_elvins said…
oh man! that sucks! i know how you are feeling.... cos i'm on the same boat too... well... sometimes, life's like that.. we've got no say... =/

and thanks! you helped me poured out my feelings... beautifully done!! (",)
Gloria said…
Haha! (Not laughing at you, bit just at life in general) I understand how you feel. For some reason everyone has had this kind of situation happen to them before. I guess you'd just better not introduce your girlfriends to your cute guy friends. Or change your set of guy friends to a less shallow set. Maybe they all like shunus or something.
MightyBV said…
Dear Xiaxue,

Don't listen to any of the other advice, however well-intentioned it may be. Only I, a complete stranger, can see into your heart and discern The Truth that you need to hear. It's quite simple, really. In situations like these, you must return to the basics. Of which, there are three:

1. Prostitution. Hookers are sweet; they will put anything in their mouths. Yes, you will contract STDs and die early. It doesn't matter, though, because hookers will put anything in their mouths. Bottom line: get hookers; put stuff in their mouths.

2. Internet Porn. For you, I recommend Tiny's Black Adventures. Why? Centaurs. I used to work there, so I know (I wrote the scripts).

3. Go Abroad. Seriously, don't be a wimp; just do it. Perhaps the easiest means to do this is to obtain jobs teaching your native language in foreign countries. If you can become adequately proficient in English to teach it, this will render this endeavor much easier. The pay is not fantastic, but the experience is -- and by "experience," I mostly mean "frequent sex with foreigners" (not teaching a bunch of booger-eating kids stuff they don't care about). You already know how this works. Foreigners are perceived as inherently exotic and attractive. Why? Who cares; the important point is that you can have lots of sex with lots of attractive people. (For males, there is an additional perk in that you can father illegitimate children in multiple countries.)

Also, I showed my roommate Mike your pictures and some of your writings, and then I asked him if you would bang you. His answer: "Yeah, man." This is incontrovertible, statistically significant proof of the veracity of my claims in Advice #3, and it's representative of the type of attention you'd receive were you to travel abroad. Mike also alleged that he has "penis veins."

Prostitutes, porn, and foreigners ... do the right thing, Xiaxue. Don't forget to ask your mom for permission, though.

MightyBV
MightyBV said…
Dear Xiaxue,

Don't listen to any of the other advice, however well-intentioned it may be. Only I, a complete stranger, can see into your heart and discern The Truth that you need to hear. It's quite simple, really. In situations like these, you must return to the basics. Of which, there are three:

1. Prostitution. Hookers are sweet; they will put anything in their mouths. Yes, you will contract STDs and die early. It doesn't matter, though, because hookers will put anything in their mouths. Bottom line: get hookers; put stuff in their mouths.

2. Internet Porn. For you, I recommend Tiny's Black Adventures. Why? Centaurs. I used to work there, so I know (I wrote the scripts).

3. Go Abroad. Seriously, don't be a wimp; just do it. Perhaps the easiest means to do this is to obtain jobs teaching your native language in foreign countries. If you can become adequately proficient in English to teach it, this will render this endeavor much easier. The pay is not fantastic, but the experience is -- and by "experience," I mostly mean "frequent sex with foreigners" (not teaching a bunch of booger-eating kids stuff they don't care about). You already know how this works. Foreigners are perceived as inherently exotic and attractive. Why? Who cares; the important point is that you can have lots of sex with lots of attractive people. (For males, there is an additional perk in that you can father illegitimate children in multiple countries.)

Also, I showed my roommate Mike your pictures and some of your writings, and then I asked him if you would bang you. His answer: "Yeah, man." This is incontrovertible, statistically significant proof of the veracity of my claims in Advice #3, and it's representative of the type of attention you'd receive were you to travel abroad. Mike also alleged that he has "penis veins."

Prostitutes, porn, and foreigners ... do the right thing, Xiaxue. Don't forget to ask your mom for permission, though.

MightyBV
bUttsH4k3r said…
i reckon you go get yourself a death cab cd, pour yourself a glass of wine, pop the cd in the player, and eat a whole tray of chocolates.

if that doesn't work, cheer up knowing i'll buy you lunch 15 years from now. all you have to do is remind me! wow!!

anyhoo, cheer up.
abib said…
Cliched as it may sound, it is true that what's meant to be will be. When you eventually find someone who loves you for who you are and you are able to love him back, that will be ultimate bliss i tell you. Trust me, I know.

And the thing about you being paranoid? I say ease off a little cos it will only scare your potential bf and your close friends away. PLUS giving your guy his free space will make you more intriguing to him and that will only increase your attractiveness.
Ain L said…
Wow. I love this post. In this kind of situation, try not to point fingers at anybody (whether it's F or L or even yourself) Cuz reality vs. plain courtesy vs. common sense vs. rights (yours and theirs) all contradict each other. It's not that i'm being unsympathetic - I know how it feels when you care for someone and shit like this happens. He's not worth your time if he doesn't realize/appreciate that. Ppl who make you feel inferior should rot in hell. LOL. At any rate, count your blessings :) cuz there are other ppl out there who are experiencing more hell in their faces than you.

P.S: - Re: "A friend once told me, "But you are not common and normal, you are a celebrity." And I replied, "Yeah but the only reason why I became a celebrity, is because the world likes to read how common and normal I am."

You don't have to be extraordinary to be a celebrity. Most of us have common and normal lives - Hence we can relate to you - Hence, you have many fans who love you - and that makes you special.

Gosh I sound like a mum. LOL sorry. Take care though :) I LOVE YOUR BLOG!
Ian Choy said…
Let's hear it from a good looking guy who's been on the other side of the situation.

The truth is that most guys will
always go for attractiveness first.
When I mean attractive doesn't mean just being pretty. It's the whole character, the way she talks to guys, the way she moves, etc....
Of course, looking HOT will always be the main priority.

I have many girls frens who wants to hang out with me and yes I admit I do give extra attention to the pretty ones. The reason is because it is natural for us (i would speak for the guys) to want to have a pretty chick. Like it or not, this is the way it is.

I once meant 2 good frens where both of them liked me. One was a decent looking gal and quite a conversationalist and the other hot, attractive and knows how to gets a guys attention. Guess who I end up with?

The bottom line is, it is a very competitive world these days, for gals and the guys.
Believe me, girls are getting prettier these days compare to like, 5 years ago and it will only get better. The same whole true for guys although to a lesser extend.

Hence, build up your attractiveness and mesmerizing skills. 
This is the only way to go in this cruel world if you want to date a hot guy like me.

Hahahaha…. Don’t believe I am hot? Will set an appointment with me and I might hang out with you.
crazycat said…
yadda yadda, wat's it with guys and looks anyway.. looks dun last, personality does, forever...cheer up girl, u are not alone
Brad said…
But don't stop introducing your friends to guys [even if you like them] because you wouldn't be that good of a friend if you went that way.
Dear Wendy,

I sympathise with your plight dear. It is a saddening but sobering fact that most peole gp for the superficial. Heyy, even forensic pathologists who have discovered that beauty is indeed only skin deep are still attracted to looks.

I'm not a good looking guy but I have had girls like me for various reasons: 1. They THINK I write music, sing and play the guitar well. 2. They FEEL that I can make them laugh 3. I have a car

I suspect if I don't have a car, the first two reasons will only surface like how bruises surfaces after a body is being put in the freezer for a few months. Ask any forensic pathologist. That's what it is all about isn't it? Conditions and more conditions. Even if it isn't about looks, a substitute will do just fine, thank you.

Do what you do best Wendy, be your common and normal celebrity. For every heartache, there is someone out there who likes you for who you are. Question is, what are your own expectations? Are you willing to like someone for who he is?
By the way, Barely Justified is the name of my band =)

Sincerely,

Dexter
faith said…
This is probably been said to death... and you're such a intelligent girl..

Girl, it will happen. You WILL meet someone. And you are not ugly at all. There will be someone. Someone who sees that heart.. that face.And eventually.. think u are just right.

And this shall be the test. When its the right one... He will pass this test and you wont worry.... if he is looking at your pal.. coz u know.. hes right.
Anonymous said…
Guys..... Blah........ I have a super popular-w-guys close gal fren too & i absolutely understood how u felt.

No matter watever i do, i will always feels i'm the ugly duckling..

And plus some of those stupid guys will ask me for help. I jus tell them things like: nvm. even if u cant get her and u r sad, it will bcum alright after a few times liao.

MUHAHAHA. tt's wat i will say if those stupid guys tot i will be SO FREE to help them....

I dun even know them lor. I hate it when they r being frenz w me jus bcoz they tot i will help them in things.

And they tot ppl r frenz jus by a few sec of introduction of names only.

those r absolutely brainless guys.

I rather not have some called frenz like these.

Sometimes i wonder, will i leave this frenship if she hasnt been such a good fren to me.

Oh well........
LeFire said…
XX, if you are ugly, then I'm the pope.

Seriously, think of it as natural selection working for your benefit.

Do you want a future husband that immediately locks onto the closest good-looking female posterior the moment he sees one? (regardless of the fact that he is unknowingly feeding the baby through the ear canal). Or someone who won't do that?

Dating "natural selection" screens out all the undesirable males that will exhibit this future trait early. So you don't need to waste time even starting a relationship on them. Simple, free and effective.
aaaapril said…
aww. c'mon girl, cheer up! I know it hurts. It alwas happens. Or rather shit happens. SHIT DO HAPPENS. *pulls hair* Sometimes, letting it go.. may not be a bad thing. I agree with what you say to your fren. I love ur blog becuz you're so common & normal but yet unique.
Yangming said…
As, Vivien Hsu said,
"Sexiness is 50% visible and 50% out of sight"

And she meant 'looks' as the visible 50% and 'character' as the invisible 50%.

Yes, it is possible to fall in love with a guy with the outer 50% just by looking at his photograph. And it is also possible for the same guy to fall in love with you just looking at you.

But in the end, the person you live with has to have the other 50% you cannot see.

What's the point of getting together with someone if there is not remotely a possibility you wouldn't break up with him? In my opinion, there are no such thing as happy breakups.

=)
What a dilemma! I've experienced it more than once. It's a crushing blow to the ego la!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I went out and bought a pair of shoes after. That made me feel 100% better...well maybe 97% better!!!!!!!!!!!!
hey girl.. cheer up ya? wat's yours will be yours.. everyting is fated.. take care!
Jessica said…
if a guy can fall for yr friend because of looks, he is not worth yr love..
FrEaKeS&FiEnDs said…
i dun noe about you mam..... but i realise in many life situations usually thats the case. But dun feel like a cai tao and ya kenna chopped! youre pretty chic looking yourself, not that you look like a fat cow walking on two legs or a goblin lookalike from lord of the rings... you'll defn find someone and usually you'll end up wif the guy u seldom notice but have always been there in ya life all this while ( most have one i hope??? )
Beth said…
Most guys are shallow, I think..
Most of them go for looks in 1st impression. Anything that goes after that is either a bonus or curse....
(Before you guys flame me, I admit I myself am shallow too, as a girl, I do go for looks too as 1st impression , that I dun deny)

Dun get depressed tho Wendy, there are guys who go for intellect and charm too...

Meeting people in life is a matter of luck.
Prob u just happen to have bad luck to meet the first category of guys....

Bless ur heart.. you'll find e right one who'll appreciate you for your candidness and intellect! ( Darn, this sounds v clique.. but watever...)
chinhao said…
Just curious after reading your post. These guys who liked your gf instead afer you made the introduction, did you like them too because of their looks fit your dream guy look or did you like them for their "inner beauty" and not their superficial outer appearance? Did you stop and think whether there are many average looking guy friends around you who may be ugly, fat, short, balding, greasy, buck-toothed, pimple faced instead of dimple faced, who really like you a lot? Would you give any of these average joes half a chance if they have inner beauty talents wonderful character and depth?
UltraVinz said…
Immature guys go for looks & looks only. If a guy falls only for your face or boobs...then I guess you really hav a "fuck face" or "fuck-up tits"! hahaha~

Mature Guys will 1st be attracted by charisma then fall in love with character.

Patience, my young XX. Get to know a MAN 1st (not his dimples), before letting youself fall for him. Since you don't look like a "hideous hag", maybe you shld learn from your fwens & see what make us "dick heads" tick! *As I said, "we're dick heads", sometimes we don't even know ourselves...

As said in "Closer", "If you believe in love @ 1st sight, you'll never stop looking".
furfur angel said…
Oh man! I can totally relate. Its a F***ing blow of ego! What to do when all our gfs are guy magnet?

Sometimes its juz the girl thing...you wanna know how your gfs see this guy, even though you know u will still like him no matter what they say. I know it sound stupid and no logic, but that juz human. The thought that hearing someone who share the same conclusion as you, makes you feel better...So instead of giving some comment or advice that you wish to hear, they juz potong jalan! Damn!

Pple out there, cut the crap of "its the inner beauty that matters" Come on~ the 1st look already turn you off, would u be bother to know her better? I think you siam ka bui hu liaoz~ Face the cruel fact humans are superficial

But then again, I always tell myself, if its looks that you are going for then, u've been missing out the exciting part in your life. So get a life, loser!!!
pk said…
Was in the same situation b4. I guess guys realie do go for looks at the first sight. I was extremely disappointed at first la. But guess people will get to see yr good points that yr fren doesn't have. You have your own uniqueness.

Guess what. my fren is also a shunu.

So conclusion is: Shu-nu-s have it all ya!!!!!
pk said…
Was in the same situation b4. I guess guys realie do go for looks at the first sight. I was extremely disappointed at first la. But guess people will get to see yr good points that yr fren doesn't have. You have your own uniqueness.

Guess what. my fren is also a shunu.

So conclusion is: Shu-nu-s have it all ya!!!!!
Gray said…
xiaxue... im ugly too ... wanna hook up? call me k... lovelovelovelove
None said…
It happens to guys as well. The sword cuts both ways. Don't be too sad. =|
Blah! said…
Though putting up this post may bring back painful memories, this has gotta be one of your better posts in a while - honest, heartfelt, raw and close to the heart.
ssnnooooppyy said…
sigh.. EVERYTHING you said hits bulls eye. such honesty! usually people who experience this will sugarcoat.. tend to their wounded ego and perhaps lie to themselves.. ahhh the courage to feel the pain!

but it is how the world works. suppose reverse the situation where an ordinary guy likes you but you like his better looking friend.. and would anyone give a fuck to that ordinary guy? sadly, no.

human's mind works in comparison. how do we know who is ugly and who is not? that's how. you're pretty but there's always someone prettier. and there's always someone uglier. have you ever thought of how many uglier frens who are jealous of you? sounds really mean but it comforts, no? haha XD

the cruel reality
UltraVinz said…
Beauty or Bitch is but a thin red line apart...

http://ultravinz.multiply.com/journal/item/14
Yin Leong said…
aiya.. u're not ugly la. dun keep saying u're fat and ugly or wat. hav more confidence and accept what u're born with lor.. lidat better for your self-image. if u feel good u will also naturally look good what. some people not very pretty but heart very nice then the whole feel is different also...
4pinplug said…
you may not lack in looks but your bitchy and selfish attitude towards most things in life do shine through that miserable layer of makeup you have on that face of yours. feel so sorry for your poor ass to even contemplate that your exertion of personal rights over your girlfriends might win you boys and popularity. while you may have a big audience with your blog with interesting reads....it does not translate to success in your personal life.

take this as an effing lesson in humility. you're gonna hate me for being an asshole writing all these to you, but in years down the road, you may just thank me for it.

it's not like average looking girls never scored big with handsome hunks....think about that.
Ugly girls dont exists; only lazy ones do.

So, since i realised u've been hardworking about your appearance, you are beautiful the way you are.

Why depress yourself over these fucked up men/guys/boys?

They are all scumbags. Nothing but making woman miserable. But its just a fact we cant live with them and cant live without them.

Since thats a fact, so we just have to accept it.

So, CHEER UP AND KICK THEIR ASSES! =D

Where is the snobbish, confident xiaxue where pple likes to read about her cursing and swearing?!

U are a celebrity not because your stories which you deem common / normal. Its because evone girl is special and you potray it really well in your blog.

Unlike guys, who are ALL out for sex , every girl is beautiful and special in their own way. Jus need the correct guy to pin that down.

Hope you feel better =D
SAM said…
sometimes its not really abt looks too...
i mean since u are a celebrity, your guy friends may think u hav really high hopes on your future dream guy that no1 dare to make the first move...

& also its abt personality too!
Phyllis said…
hey xiaxue,

been reading your blog but it's my first time leaving a comment. not every guy goes for looks when it comes to liking a girl. i'm speaking this from experience. i didn't leave a stunning impression on my current bf on the very first meeting. in fact, i was dressed really casually (tank and shorts) sans makeup and with glasses. but that's irrelevant, coz after we got tog, the reason he likes me is bcoz he likes my personality. See.. you may make the worst first impression on a guy, but i believe ultimately, your bubbly personality would shine through. =)
tinz said…
it happens all the time.
guy falls for best friend
best friend hooks up with guy
then dump you,the ex best friend.
that's how the reality-fairytale story goes.
Mish C said…
hello ! cliche as it may sound, there surely is a guy out there just meant for you. so don't get jealous lah, those guys whom the "girlfriends" are just mere crushes. and those "girlfriends" are not your friends either.
so be patient ! (:
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syn said…
oh dear. situations like that do suck, and i remember how much they suck, but being older now, and with some hindsight, i can tell you that you won't always feel like that. Girlfriends will mature, especially those who sincerely care for you, and pretty or not, will look out for your best interests. I don't think its much exaggeration to say that pretty girls like being pretty and enjoy being admired, and while they're still getting used to it, they may forget to think about its effect on other girls around them.

Having said that though, you don't really need people to tell you that you're pretty, it's something you decide for yourself and i think that you do like the way you look. What's cool about you though, is that you have a unique and therefore rare personality (and not in that everyone is unique kind of way), and naturally enough, it's hard to find guys who would appreciate your particular type of personality. When you do meet someone who does though, imagine how lucky he'll consider himself to have found someone like you! and it won't matter at all how pretty your best friend/sister/cousin is. Hopefully you'll like him too, then can stop being paranoid and live happily ever after, tra la la, but you know... all these silly little boys with vanilla tastes looking for nothing more than a pretty face or chiobu currency, are really not worth losing heart over. Hopefully you'll see this for yourself, and sooner rather than later. :)
bobby said…
how about the girl you like suddenly do a u-turn and is dating ur good fren without letting u know. and letting u know only after they are together? well, that's kinda pain too. and i like ur ending quote. Somehow weird people with weird sexual fetish are somehow visiting my blog more often then i wish. so THERE ARE weird people around.
writ3r said…
could i just agree with the last sentence and let you continue feeling upset over the guy you like and yr girlfriend...?

well i guess not.

the more you try to control and prevent something from happening, the more it'll happen.

you can't prevent yrself from falling in love, neither could you prevent yrself from falling out of it.

pardon me from saying this, you aren't drop dead gorgeous but you do have the looks & skills.

perhaps some will always be superficial and get scare off by girls with brains.

they aren't worth your time.

don't go searching for love, it doesn't work that way. it'll happen when you least expected and may prove to be too much to handle.

hope that didn't sound like nagging... =)

t.care.
Ian said…
McDermott was quite correct about how the Singapore blogsphere is infantile. If this is a leading blog, then I am not surprised. At such an age, it's shocking, to say the least, that you have such peripheral concerns.
mf said…
Like that last para, has a sense of luo4 mu4 hou4 de qi1 liang2..

Sometimes I can be insecure about guy/s I like, or have good feelings for, being too close to a gf, or worse, falling for her.

But you can't keep him away from all your gfs forever. LL la if it happens, means he doesn't like me.. (Sound like testing water but end up drowning :p)

Anyway I don't believe I can't find another one, a better one!
UltraVinz said…
"Peripheral" or not, it's still a topic on "human (in this case - XX's) relations". I can challenge that "NOBODY" in the world can confidently say that they know everything about it.

If anyone thinks that sg blogsphere is infantile, proof to us that you can do better. Of course, to begin with, you must at least have a blog entry rather than an empty blogger account.

Talk is Cheap!
dun tell u said…
OH MY GOD

i feel so sad for you
Milani said…
Well, it happens to everyone. Having their crush fancy their prettier girlfriend.

Then again, looking at your pictures (face and body), you are rather on the plump side, and your eyes are erm... what shall we call it? Centered?

You may sound *quite* intelligent on the weblog sometimes, but I suspect in real life, you aren't able to manifest your personality all that well.

An truth be told, if u can't show your personality or sexiness, compared to a prettier girl, any sane person is gonna be checking out the babe (in this case, NOT you).

Sorry, lass. Lol.
JOYCE said…
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JOYCE said…
hello xiaxue, great to see you posting again (: anyway, you're definitely not normal you're different in a good way. so really cherish what you got and wait for that someone.
baboo said…
well at least that is ur gd friend.i used to like this girl and my classmate wanna know her. he is those irritating and super chee hong kind and that sucker used my phone and msg the girl like and dunno y my friend actually give him. from that moment i totally sian 1/2 so bo pian lanlan lor have to act generous and act like nuthing happen
dun tell u said…
some comments on some comments.

1)Ian said...
Let's hear it from a good looking guy who's been on the other side of the situation.

The truth is that most guys will
always go for attractiveness first.
When I mean attractive doesn't mean just being pretty. It's the whole character, the way she talks to guys, the way she moves, etc....
Of course, looking HOT will always be the main priority.

I have many girls frens who wants to hang out with me and yes I admit I do give extra attention to the pretty ones. The reason is because it is natural for us (i would speak for the guys) to want to have a pretty chick. Like it or not, this is the way it is.

I once meant 2 good frens where both of them liked me. One was a decent looking gal and quite a conversationalist and the other hot, attractive and knows how to gets a guys attention. Guess who I end up with?

The bottom line is, it is a very competitive world these days, for gals and the guys.
Believe me, girls are getting prettier these days compare to like, 5 years ago and it will only get better. The same whole true for guys although to a lesser extend.

Hence, build up your attractiveness and mesmerizing skills. 
This is the only way to go in this cruel world if you want to date a hot guy like me.

Hahahaha…. Don’t believe I am hot? Will set an appointment with me and I might hang out with you.
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either u are lying or u got some balls writing that. do let us know after u get to meet her.......

2)Icon said...
Come on lah...have you ever think about what is it that guys dun like about you???

I mean, in the looks department, I dun think you are too far behind. And you really know how to doll up also right? (You're a celebrity leh)

So what is it? Could it be your attitude? Looking at your post, I think your firends must be damn pressurised and stressed out being your friends man...especially if they are pretty also. What kind of selfish, inconsiderate and dominating friend would get angry because two friends happen to take pictures together??? Its not like they are smooching right in front of you or what. And so what if they do, they cannot fall in love because Wendy has "chope" him liao...If that's the case, what happens if you "chope" all the good-looking guys around you? Like that, all your gal friends (or at least according to you, your true friends are all going to be become nuns!!)

If you really like someone, go for it. Do your best and win his heart. Dun blame others if it didn't work out, it only means that you are not good enough. And it may not be because of look.

Think about it and grow up lah.
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couldnt have said it better myself. well done

3)Ailin | The Bitch said...
Ugly girls dont exists; only lazy ones do.

So, since i realised u've been hardworking about your appearance, you are beautiful the way you are.

Why depress yourself over these fucked up men/guys/boys?

They are all scumbags. Nothing but making woman miserable. But its just a fact we cant live with them and cant live without them.

Since thats a fact, so we just have to accept it.

So, CHEER UP AND KICK THEIR ASSES! =D

Where is the snobbish, confident xiaxue where pple likes to read about her cursing and swearing?!

U are a celebrity not because your stories which you deem common / normal. Its because evone girl is special and you potray it really well in your blog.

Unlike guys, who are ALL out for sex , every girl is beautiful and special in their own way. Jus need the correct guy to pin that down.

Hope you feel better =D
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u assume guys are ALL out for sex,i'm really very disappointed as it is more than that.
gillian said…
hey girl, though i do not know you personally, but how you feel, i totally understand. it happened to me, it happened to my cousin too. but look on the bright side, if the guy goes for looks, he's not the type of guy for you or me. we're special, just that it can't be seen, because it comes from within. the funny thing is, i wrote an entry just like yours, but slightly earlier. =) if you are interested, we could be friends. but my story ended happily, 'cos i'm attached to a wonderful guy for almost 5 years already. he's good-looking, and i'm not. but he truly loves me. you will find your true love soon. =) good luck, and happy advanced 21st birthday!
ying said…
if things has gone on smoothly, then there will not be story from u, right? sometimes u really wont realise tt its a blessing until u met the one. :D cheerios..

i used to be the one snatching other ppl's guy they like.. not tt i want to but just tt the guy was lousy.. n i didnt end up any better either.. so it goes to show tt "the one" is worth waiting for..

cheerios! happy advanced 21st bdae!
Remote Control said…
hmm...where did the old yanyan goto in this post huh....;)
small fly said…
one day your dream guy on white prancing horse will appear. anyway, you deserve someone of measurable intellect.mensa! mensa! not people who fall for your prettier girlfriends.it's your character that defines you and the success of your blog is a testimony to that. cheer up! one day your better half will come!
Haze said…
i supposed it happened to everyone... n somehow it only occurs one way. people come to us to get other girls.

instead of people going to other girls to get us..

changing everyday to earn a few praises from the opposite sex.. n when we finally get it.. somehow its still not enough
dweam said…
hey xiaxue! firstly, i do not think you are ugly. those guys just dont know what they are missing out on.. they probably know who you are and are intimidated by you! so one day you'll find a guy who'll appreciate you for all your intelligence and beauty. in the long run, beauty fades.

maybe you shld try acting "unavailable". guys always seem to flock to unavailable girls. haha. tsk. MEN! *shakes head*
RootBeerBottle said…
Hey Xiaxue,

Guess my comment is abit late by now but I totally understand how you feel. Been thru it a few times and until I start to question myself whether am I too lousy for them, feeling inferior about myself. There is once I introduce a guy to my gf (I dont like that guy, phew lucky) but seeing them so close I still have the 'pek chek' feeling, somemore my gf is so insensitive! I warned her that the guy can be friends but not bf material, but she can come and tell me: "Aiya no lah think you mistaken him liao, actually he is a super nice guy blab blab.." HELLO!! I knew him for 3 years and you only know him for...1 month?? You can come and tell me his personality as if you know him better then me! Bitch. Imagine I dont even like that guy and I feel pretty lousy liao.. Anyway too bad, this is the reality that sometime your best gal friends can hurt you so much. Just try to forgive but not forget.

Time will prove everything.
even for a guy, this happens. as in, the girls i like end up liking the guy i introduce them to.

the only way to comfort yourself is perhaps to say that there will come a day when that special Mr. Right will think you're his Ms. Perfect.

don't worry abt it!
even for a guy, this happens. as in, the girls i like end up liking the guy i introduce them to.

the only way to comfort yourself is perhaps to say that there will come a day when that special Mr. Right will think you're his Ms. Perfect.

don't worry abt it!
velvet walls said…
2 thing. one, there is no definitive on what is common or normal.. these terms are infact redundant and mean zilch. two, i am always less forgiving, infact intolerant of the 'girlfriend' simply because she is ur friend, he is just another possible love interest, (closer, natalie portman " there is always a moment in which u choose.." or something to that affect) i think these days we tend to underestimate the value of a real friend or the term friendship and what it entails.
so chin up gurl, not all is despair. ;)
Azxel said…
wow... you seem to have an endless supply for guys you like and girlfriends... impressive.
isis said…
Scarly ur this female friend can turn around and say you are "surpressing" her and not being considerate to her feelings.

Actually I guess she has tried la but she is like that in nature so if you really wish to avoid it, then you shouldn't have introduced in the first place.

Hang out with me more la. Our taste very different and I doubt we will ever like the same guy one day. Moreover I don't PR.

Happy Birthday in advance...
Jin said…
Finally! You're still quite normal after all. Thought your head had inflated till it toppled off your neck. You're still human. I like that. :D
P E I Y I said…
dun be so sad, i know how u feels.. cuz this happened to me often too..
but dun be discouraged and stuffs.. cuz u are special in some way =)
i know it sux when the guy u liked likes ur girlfriend,
mine's worse.. he even used me so tt when i go out with them i'll call my girlfriend along.. and therefore they can meet her up and leave me behind..
im hurt too.. it really hurts my pride..
this kinda stuff oso haunts me along anyways...
hahas, dun tink so much.
you're pretty too
*cheerss*
Shaikhah said…
U can get those type of shoes at V&C for a very good price. I bought the same type about a month or so ago, it cost me $27.90. And they have it in 3 colours. I don't know if they still have it now, but u can still give it a shot. They're actually pretty comfortable. =)
Tsk tsk* Men will be men, its their primal instinct to mate with prettiest girl....
Jorraine said…
girl i emphathise! ditch such 'friends' i say!
froZenZombie said…
Errr.... does this mean you will still introduce your friend June to me?


Just Joking! Dun hurt me pls.
Marcelly said…
Babe.. you are anything but common and normal. you are how special
bev said…
You speak of men like they are only out looking for playthings. While maybe you haven't been lucky enough to cross the path of the rare and few good men out there... they DO exist. I know. I've met one.
Sammy Samson said…
indeed, super rare bev...i'm a jerk myself hah...

anyway, i think being born beautiful is nothing; it's becoming beautiful (in and out) tt's smthng...it's a skill not many can learn. u've got sum skills there...keep it up and dun keep saying u're ugly...
Jaschocolate said…
Actually, i think u look much better than ur friends, xiaofeng and June.. or maybe it's the photoshop.. haha
crystalclearme said…
Hey xx, i been reading ur blog, its interesting, i m not a blogger myself, just signed up so i can leave my comments here hee! Well, i guess the way you blog has evolved and seems to be taking a different taste from before, i m impressed with the amount of efforts you put into your blog. Keep it up! Due to the massive response you got, i saw quite a number of blogs copying your style -_-". those ppl have no originality i guess. Yucks*

I have the same experiences as lingling_verlin. And what make it worse is that it my girlfriend's boyfriend, and.. not only one of her boyfriends.

First incident - it happened that I do not know that guy is her boyfriend. She and I knows this guy separately, this guy said he wasnt attach, and I have totally no feel for this guy. Yet this guy ditched her, she later came telling me that they were already together before that. How am I supposed to know?? I can feel that she is so hurt. OMG. I was thinking, there's no way I am going to let a guy stands in our friendship, so I stop every contact with the guy. Years passed, second boyfriend of hers came along, and fell for me. Oh god, I seldom talk with her boyfriend ard, rarely talk to her bf. Its really none of my business !!! I talked to her and tell her that I am not attracted to any of her bfs. -disinterested. For years, I assured her that i m not going to let ANY guy stands in our friendship, she is my best friend. and even when I go out with the guy's guy friend (the guy whom she like) , I told her every conversations without withholding any information to prevent misunderstanding beforehand. I believed I have done all I could to maintain our friendship, and its pretty tiring to consider her feelings at ALL times. Worst of all is that after so many years, she still cannot get over the first boyfriend, she turned ard n said that I am the cause of her relationships failure. I was speechless and so heartbroken, despite of so much efforts i put to maintain distance from each and every of her guy friends, ( i really do not know when she wil start to like those guys and I have no wish to take any risk ), considering her feelings, I am supposed to account for her own failure in relationships.

This time, I left her. I was too heartbroken to face such a friend, such a friendship which I put my heart in wholly. I did not defend myself, I said nothing. If for so many years, she cant see what I been doing, nothing I say will help.

I am thinking the bottomline is, our friendship is as precious, if not, more precious than those guys. I mean there are so many guys out there, the one you like/love might not be suitable for you, or nothing might work out eventually, its like a bet. But girlfriends who are there, so for you, they are going to stay no matter what. When you graduates, get your first job, gossip about hot dates, marry and they are going to be your bridemaids, rejoices with you when you have your first baby. Cant we see for a simple fact that.. unless its your husband who fell for your friends, who cared about those guys? Say, if your friends took a stand, steer clear of those guys, rejoices for they are your allies! On the other hand, if your girlfriend fell for that guy, rejoices for they found their love! You want your girlfriend to be happy for you when you found your love no matter what rite?

The most impt of all, is HONESTY. just be honest, like or dont like, honesty brings about trust, with the right friend of course. If your friend dont trust you, might as well ditch her rite? What kind of r/s can do w/o trust?

xx, i might not understd fully how u feel, i mean who could? no one can feel how you are feeling, no matter how similar one's situation can be. and sympathy dont bring about comfort. just be confident of urself, u have your own unique x-factor, which is not common nor replaceable, thereby need not felt threatened by any pretty faces, just by being confident, you beat anyone ard you. Of course, matters of heart cant be hurried, good thing takes more time. =)
Ariel T said…
Frankly speaking, I don't see why F needs your permission to get in touch with L, since he was the one who asked for her number and she willingly gave it to her. It was quite common and normal right? Your act of imposing as your best friend to talk to a guy who was interested in you not you was more than pathetic. You should look at yourself in the mirror and be glad that the two got together in the end and even for four whole years. What kind of friend are you to feel that way? Any so-called best friend would be happy that their galfren has found true love. You're just jealous because you're not pretty enough to get the guy you like. Face it - if you don't pretend to be pretty and focus more on improving your character, then perhaps you will find a guy who truly loves you.

Best Regards
PalliativeDrug said…
WAT THE HELL LA... you keep saying that your friends are pretty, but you didn't put any pictures.. how do we know if they are REALLY chio?!

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Maybe you are INDEED chio, but somehow you don't appeal to some people.
NETTE! :) said…
okay, honestly speaking, i think you're being too paranoid. i think it's better to be suffering in silence then put your friendship in jeperdy. after all, friendships are always so much more important. i mean, yeah yeah, true love. oh, be done with that. how many people you know now really knows what true love is? never sacrific anything you have for some idiotic guy whom you might like for the second. besides, if the girlfriend did something like that to you, i'd say to ditch her. that's just plain mean. though i GUESS you should forgive her first, still remain friends, but don't trust her that much anymore. ahahah. ^^; oh wells, all the best with all your other relationship problems!

(p.s you're pretty. not chio. chio is an entirely different meaning from pretty/beautiful. check the hokkien dictionary. lol. ^^; AND no offence, but i think the people here who just worship you and praise you and suck up to you are just too shallow to see any good for themselves.)

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