Politics and Adultery

Just want to give my two cents on the recent Michael Palmer affair that has been dominating the headlines in Singapore lately.

In case you are not Singaporean or you are but somehow still do not know what happened, basically it is your classic story of a politician who decided to have an affair, the news got leaked out, and he resigns his post.

There are no sex tapes or naked cellphone photos accompanying this news (boring!) except some mushy smses discussing... fruit... but Singaporeans are still pretty excited about it. Our country is kinda boring.

 Here's Michael Palmer with his mistress Laura Ong

The first thing that popped into my mind when I heard of this was... "Not again? Why can't politicians keep their penises in their pants when they have so much to lose?"

So I googled it and got some answers from various articles. The top answer to the Yahoo! Question of "Why do so many politicians have affairs?" is:

"Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac." 

It is true that women are generally more attracted to men who are rich, good-looking or show leadership qualities. Being a politician possibly also means being good with words (or lies) and having a certain amount of charm. The average man might have perhaps 5 women trying to seduce him throughout his married life but if someone has 1,000 women fawning over him the chances of a successful seduction is much higher. Of course, not in all cases the homewrecker must have been the initiator, but I'm just saying it is hard to resist, say... Marilyn Monroe if she were coming after you. (Not that Laura Ong is anywhere near that standard)

Another reason could be that politicians are supposed to uphold extremely tight morals, including fidelity to their wives. Rarely do we hear of politicians who get divorced, probably coz they know it will negatively affect their image. So I suppose a lot of them stay on with an unhappy marriage, which is, again, more susceptible to infidelity.

Thirdly, it has also been said that the more someone knows they shouldn't do something, all the more it is fun and thrilling to them.

It may seem at this point that I am somehow on the side of the philandering politicians and finding excuses for them. Rest assured that I am not. Despite all the solid reasons listed above, the fact remains that although it may be harder for politicians to keep it in their pants, we expect MORE from our leaders.

We expect them to show more self control than the average man, be more loving and considerate towards the feelings of his wife and family than the average man, and to be SMARTER than the average man.

Yes, smarter. We don't need a dumbass to be making decisions for us and for our country.

These politicians KNOW very well the consequences to having an affair. They know they will lose everything - the career they worked so hard for, their precious public image built up over years, the trust of their voters and family.

They know that if they send a picture of their penis to their mistress the mistress can blackmail him and/or the penis photo can be sent to the media. They know the media will dig around and publicize every other shameful secret they have.

Plenty of precedence in history. And yet they still fuck around.

The ensuing scandals erase whatever good they have done previously, making them go down in history with all their dirty private sex secrets exposed as an adulterer. I don't know a single good thing Bill Clinton did when he was president but I do know he put a cigar in Monica Lewinsky's cheebye.

ANYONE can tell you it isn't worth it. What do you call a person who, despite knowing that fire burns, decides to put his head in it? Crazy.... Or stupid.

Michael Palmer doesn't seem crazy, so I'd say he is stupid. I won't vote for a stupid politician.

Which leads me to the next topic of discussion...

It is extremely surprising to me that a lot of people are saying he shouldn't have to resign. Are you kidding me?

Here are some of the reasons I've read:

1) His private life has nothing to do with his work life.
2) He just made an "honest mistake".
3) Cheating is not a crime

And this paragraph I got from Yawning Bread:


Right... Firstly, I'd like to say that being faithful to your wife hardly seems to be a "throttling moralistic standard".

70% of men did not cheat throughout their marriage, and to act like it is SOOOO much to expect of Michael Palmer to tell Laura Ong "Look, sorry, but I'm married and also being with you will be political suicide." - that is ridiculous. It isn't that hard, sorry.

Let's not forget that however throttling being monogamous is, Palmer was the one who agreed to it in the first place. Nobody forced him into it.

He could be a single man now and who he fucks is nobody's business, but he proposed, he signed an oath, and to turn back and say "Hey, this fucking one person thing is really throttling!"... That's his fucking problem. You don't want to have one vagina the rest of your life, don't sign on the dotted line. Regret it? Divorce your wife, THEN fuck around.

Nobody expects our politicians to be saints, but since when is being faithful considered... unachievable saintly behaviour? 

The line has to be drawn somewhere, and if it is lower than adultery... well then let's also invite rapists, murderers and thieves to lead the country, lest we deprive ourselves of possible talent.

(There are leaders who have turned into rapists, murderers and thieves later on, but we generally do not elect them knowing so)

2) His private life has everything to do with his work life. While his actual work may have no relevance to whoever he is inserting his penis into, whether he likes it or not, he represents the PAP, our government.

Our government dictates a huge part of our societal laws. As a married woman and an expectant mother, yes I'd like to believe in the sanctity of marriage - one man and one woman (applicable also for homosexuals, but that's another topic altogether) for better or for worse till death do us part blah blah.

I'd also like to believe that my government upholds the same familial values and will have laws protecting me should I be a victim of my spouse's adultery.

I expect to see the same values reflected in who they choose to represent them in parliament.

To have an adulterer in the midst of my government... Sorry, I simply cannot accept. It would seem to me that the PAP finds adultery acceptable.

I know that if Palmer remained an MP he is 1% of 99% of monogamous people in the parliament, and it's not like he can suddenly approve a bill of polygamy for all Singaporean men or something, but I just find him repugnant and that feeling will extend to any political party he is in.

Besides, his actions (from his personal life) prove that he is a man who is weak-willed, lack self control, irresponsible, has rotten morals, and as I mentioned before, is stupid. I believe character has everything to do with what he votes for in parliament, don't you?

You may say that Michael Palmer probably will never cheat again so why can't he be forgiven? Which leads me to the next point.

 3) It isn't an HONEST MISTAKE. An honest mistake is when you accidentally step on someone's foot in a crowded bus.

This affair has been going on for a while now. It is not like Oh Mr Palmer was not wearing pants one day and his penis accidentally went into Miss Ong's vagina when she was bending over to pick up a pen, oops.

No, he committed mistake after mistake, Monday after Monday... With no consideration for his wife and kid's feelings whatsoever.

Maybe, just maybe, his wife is a horrible person who is also cheating on him (not that this is a valid excuse, he should divorce her before cheating if that's the case) but what did his poor kid do to deserve this?

Sorry, this was done with selfish intent and purpose.

After the first time he had sex with Laura he must have told himself "Oh I've done such a horrible thing today!! Should I stop?" and somehow his answer was No, I should continue.

And he did... All the way he continued until he was caught, and if he weren't, he'd still be fucking Laura Ong next Monday.

So please men, don't say it's an honest mistake, trying perhaps to justify your own weakness and infidelity?

Count the amount of times you inserted your penis into a woman other than your wife... Considering you can stop after any amount of thrusts, THAT count is the total number of mistakes you made.

4) Michael Palmer resigned not because he was forced to but because he knew it was the strategic thing to do.

Just imagine if you were him, how thick-skinned would you have to be to stay on? All your colleagues will be gossiping about you, nobody will focus on any of your good work.

Nobody will vote for you anymore because someone who cannot even handle his family well should not try to handle the country. Staying on will only cost his party precious votes. Really, what choice does he have?

I've read people saying he being brave and honourable to resign. I agree it does take courage to admit a shameful mistake, and Michael Palmer's reaction is definitely more honourable than the last politician who had an affair, Yew Shin Leong, who is a coward, but let's not make him out to be some sort of hero, shall we?

A man should man up to his mistakes. He simply did what any PR agency would have advised him to.

I cannot believe that there are people who are on his side, and this is simply the most ridiculous thing I've read, via my facebook feed:

I'm guessing his wife is not one of the 4 people who liked this.

Are you fucking kidding me?

So now we are supposed to be sympathetic and empathizing to adulterers too? THEY HAVE RIGHTS?

No, what they had a RIGHT to is to NOT cheat!

Nobody took a gun to their head and forced them to have an affair!

Really, think about it, what do adulterers get when they cheat?

Sometimes, if the adulterer is male and rich and happens to have a scheming wife, she get a fair share of his estate, ie monetary rewards.

However, adultery isn't that easy to prove in court, and for the men whose wives cheated on them or for the wives of poorer men, sometimes the consequences for the adulterer is simply shame and embarrassment.

Most of the time the adulterer goes on to lead a new life with the homewrecker.

In the case of no divorce, the spouse is forced to forgive such a monumental mistake and continue trying to make the marriage work.

Is this fair? They do something so cruel and selfish to their spouse whom they have made a promise to, and signed an oath on. Sometimes there are children involved. Other times they pass sexually transmitted diseases to their partners.

And now you are telling me we should not even bestow upon them the rightful shame and scorn they deserve because we shouldn't DISCRIMINATE AGAINST THEM? FUCK YOU!

I can discriminate against them all I want because they made themselves into adulterers via conscious choice, it is not like they are born an adulterer now, are they??

Save your self-righteous anti-discrimination crap for the right people who deserve it, people who are discriminated based on something they cannot help, like gender, race, or disability - not for fucking adulterers for fuck's sake.


I'm still cracking my brains thinking exactly what "rights" I'm supposed to be giving to Adulterers... The right to privacy perhaps since what happened in their family is their business?

Sorry, the Adulterer is the first to pull a third party into the picture and after that he lost his right to privacy when he decided to create such a scandal for everyone to see. It's like dancing naked in your backyard and yelling at people to not look at you.

Adulterers know exactly what they are getting themselves into when they have an affair. The same reason I agree with capital punishment - if you know the consequences and still do it, you deserve it.


Anonymous said…
This is a really, really, really good article! I'm not from Singapore, but I TOTALLY agree with you.

You've got a nice sense of how to structure a discussion. Plus you add a spicy pinch of humour and ironic jokes. Well done!! I don't get why people call you a stupid bimbo... just continue to be so critical and honest! The way you worship marriage and fidelity is great! ♥♥♥♥ Love you!!!!!!!

Btw: I'm so happy for you to become a mother!! I wish you the best! ♥
HitomiNeko said…
omgish. totally completely agree with you. IDK WTF is ppl thinking giving rights to adulterers and saying how it’s an “ honest mistake. LAME! STUPID! if a man cannot handle a little power and just f***s around, obviously he does not deserve to be in any kind of leadership for the country. & you are absolutely right that being royal to a spouse is not “ throttling moralistic standard” it is BASIC standard of human relationship! No one put a gun in his head and force him to marry his wife.

I don’t know why but I feel somewhat angry right now knowing that there are people siding the adulterers. Either these people are adulterers or never been betrayed in their life to think such thing is even acceptable.

Julia said…
Completely agreed...

Once you consciously harm someone, you will be judged.
Anonymous said…
very well written xiaxue
V said…
Ditto. "Don't discriminate against adulterers"... made me chuckle. What an absolute idiot.
HellaQuirky said…
Hmm, I think that even though people who have affairs are making a conscious decision to do something wrong, I think an additional reason for why politicians/celebrities and whoever, who have so much on the line, make such poor choices, is because they think they can get away with everything.

Maybe there's a thrill knowing that what they are doing is wrong, and they know it to an extent. But honestly, who goes around thinking, "oh, yeah, I'm willing to throw my career away for this illicit affair." Nope, none of them are. Because in reality, they think they are above it. There's something that tends to go along with fame, whether it be for tv/movie celebrities, politicians, or general people who have inflated egos. I think the bottom line is that they merely have the disillusioned thought that they are invincible.

Not that I'm absolving anyone of blame, but I think that many situations aren't so black and white as that. Everyone has self-preservation mechanisms, and everyone has an ego, big or small. Things happen, people lie to themselves as much as they lie to other people.

Also, to put in my additional two cents and my opinion... I think adulterers do have rights. They're people, they make mistakes. I'm not necessarily condoning what they do as "right" but I also don't think a mistake of this nature is something that automatically strips you of some. I agree to an extent that politicians should be held to a higher standard because of what they do and the decisions they make for the citizens. BUT, I can still see the rationale of overlooking someone's personal life when they do a stellar job and can behave and act in a way that maybe they're not allowed to in their personal life.

Again, not trying to make excuses, just trying to humanize and rationalize people and their mistakes. Not that there shouldn't be punishments or consequences, and obviously the backlash they are getting represents that, but overall, they're still people.

People are complex and are capable of compartmentalizing things, maybe making it so they can be awesome at their jobs, but maybe b/c they're so awesome they neglect their personal lives. Who knows?! That's the thing, no one can be a saint (I suppose that's b/c I'm not religious, so sure you could be close... but we're all human.

Stuff happens.
Anna said…
I initially felt that it really wasn't anybody's business how Michael Palmer was conducting his personal life because carrying out his duties should be the important part. After reading your post, however, I realise how much it matters. Perhaps it's because I'm not of age to vote yet that I thought otherwise. Putting myself in the shoes of someone who has the opportunity to choose who runs the country, I couldn't agree more that voting for a sketchy philanderer would be a big mistake.
Jessie Ooi said…
always amused me with your think out of the box post! love it :)
Anonymous said…
I do not support adultery but I suppose its the 'superior white man syndrome' that has Laura Ong the bitch to offer her pussy to Michael Palmer. No, I think Mike should not resign because over the border in a god-forsaken 4th world country, Chua Soi Lek, an adulterer as well who was caught on tape putting his dick in a pussy not of his wife's, is the president of MCA, a ruling party of the BN.
Anonymous said…
This is why you're better than Dawn Yang, she talks crap, and you always say things that make sense and brilliant! By the way, she still haven't got over you , in fact in her recent posts, she still is degrading you and even post a picture of an ugly midget and quoted she reminded her of you. So pathetic. -________-
Anonymous said…
PLEASE do a post on homosexual marriages, or relationships. I really want to hear your opinions on that based on sick comments such as 'gay people can be cured' or that 'two men having sex is disgusting'. I'm a girl and I'm really hoping someone who has such a powerful say like you can help Singaporeans or your international readers to become more aware of the kind of harsh and really stupid ignorant discrimination the lgbt community faces. Since nobody important wants to bring up such an issue, I've been hoping for since really long ago that you might say something about it.
Lauren said…
Entries like this are why I started reading your blog in the first place. Love your take on current events.
Anonymous said…
I completely disagree with your statement about how Bill Clinton did not do any good while he was in office. That is completely shortsighted of you. President Teddy Roosevelt once said, "Speak softly and carry a big stick". President Clinton used this to full effect, before entangling this country into war, he utilized diplomacy to avert it. War is the last resort not the first response. Unlike George W. Bush's two terms. If having a viable presidency means that you have to lead your country into war, then yes, he failed on that account. It appears that you are basing your assault on the Mr. Palmer upon moral turpetude, nowhere in your article did you mention any of his achievements. He is a man, he made a mistake, albeit a big one and he'll pay the price for that for the rest of his life. He resigned from office and out of the public spotlight, but he'll still have to face his wife and children for the rest of his life knowing what he did to them. We were made in the image of god, we are not saints. As a human being, he acted on an impulse, a moment of weakness and he'll have to deal with the aftermath and consequences. I agree with you regarding the right to privacy argument, he gave that up when he accepted the office. It is after all a public office and not the private sector. I believe that his punishment will be far worse then the vehement words you are directing towards him. In ending I would like to ask you why you didn't attack Laura Ong as vehemently as you did Michael Palmer. What about her moral turpetude? She knew full well what his marital status was.
Anonymous said…
I TOTALLY 100% agree with you Xiaxue, I'm extremely glad you posted this article.

Cheating is stupid. There is no valid excuse. It's a mistake, pure and simple.

p/s all the best with your pregnancy :)
Christine said…
Awesome! I so, so, SO agree!! I didn't know about this whole thing before this, but in the end let's not confuse the perpetrator with the victims. The victims are his family and the country he is leading, and he is the perpetrator. I think the LEAST he could have done is resign, and that's nothing more than his obligation as someone who cocked up so badly in such a position of trust and leadership.
Christine said…
Awesome! I so, so, SO agree!! I didn't know about this whole thing before this, but in the end let's not confuse the perpetrator with the victims. The victims are his family and the country he is leading, and he is the perpetrator. I think the LEAST he could have done is resign, and that's nothing more than his obligation as someone who cocked up so badly in such a position of trust and leadership.
Anonymous said…
For all you know, that Ong woman was another Wallis Simpson. Until you can prove otherwise, you're just ranting.
People these days. I think our moral standard is degrading. To think that people saying adulterers have rights??? They must be joking or they are insane! Wtf rights do they have in indulging something so disgusting and unfaithful? I think the ones defending these people are the same as them and they just refuse to accept the fact that they are wrong. Sickening.
Anonymous said…
This was a very well written piece! Clear, intelligent and concise and makes me love your blog just that little bit more :. bravo!!
Jake said…
Between starting a bad relationship with wife, to getting happily ever after with another woman, there will defnitely be a time period when the man would be considered two-timing both woman. Is there a difference as to when he can put his penis somewhere new if his heart already not there? Or do you think he should keep it in his pants until after divorced, while in the meantime can still foreplay at most? It seems "adultry" is just a label to an act that is time dependant but your commetary seems to suggest that once in politics he must be stuck with his wife to act like morally high. What is your suggestion if he feels he need a new fuck?
Jake said…
Between starting a bad relationship with wife, to getting happily ever after with another woman, there will defnitely be a time period when the man would be considered two-timing both woman. Is there a difference as to when he can put his penis somewhere new if his heart already not there? Or do you think he should keep it in his pants until after divorced, while in the meantime can still foreplay at most? It seems "adultry" is just a label to an act that is time dependant but your commetary seems to suggest that once in politics he must be stuck with his wife to act like morally high. What is your suggestion if he feels he need a new fuck?
Anonymous said…
I think sometimes you can forgive them, like Clinton, FDR, JFK, because they are likable... But other times they are just awful people, like John Edwards - he cheated on his wife while she had cancer with a crazy blond or Newt Gingrich - had an affair while his first wife was dying, married the homewreaker and then cheated on her. I think it's also a inheritable personality flaw - like FDR had affairs and his sons all were cheaters too, none of them had stable marriages, got divorced and remarried multiple times. But you can't compare it to rape or murder, because otherwise Clinton wouldn't be able to show his face anymore. It's obviously different. In his case, it was a dumb thing he did and yea, he's a likable guy besides accepting a BJ from a fat intern that crochets handbags, which is kind of funny.
D said…
Sooo True I mean they have a choice not too so I totally agree with you!
helen said…
I just wanted to add an opinion from an international reader, who frequents Singapore for holidays and work..

Singaporeans seem to be much more blasé about cheating and infidelity than any other developed nation. I can't count the number of times males who are fiances, husbands or fathers that have propositioned me. My singaporean friends have all been either cheated on or the cheater in a serious relationship.

It blows my mind. But knowing this, it makes sense that so many people have the opinion that you have outlined - it was a mistake, he has rights, what's the big deal.

Anonymous said…
Sorry Xiaxue, usually I agree with you but this time you're just getting your panties in a knot because you're the wife. As if you don't know people who are good at work but make shitty partners.
VERY well articulated. You're a smart and eloquent woman and it's always interesting to read your commentary.
Anonymous said…
just one question: why do you think adultery isn't a crime under the law?
Anonymous said…
As usual, your blog posts are quite a read. Aside from the Advertorials, I mean. Well, those are ok, too. Considering they are advertisements.

I liked this post. A lot. Wendy you are just so amazing.
tiff said…
Hey Xiaxue, long time lurker here, but I've decided to post a comment here for the first time because what you've written really hit the nail and I applaud you for writing such a well thought out post!
Nikki said…
I love this post! I agree that adulterers and cheater's who were in serious relationships, should be held against moral standards! Excuses for their immoral choice or display of poor character would just be silly and would seem to condone their behavior.
marium said…
Xiaxue, you're a hero to all the people who are too ashamed to speak up against this kind of thing because they feel that being a victim of an adulterer is somehow their own fault. I only have one principle about this kind of thing, there is NO,Absolutely NO excuse for cheating. if you're not in love with someone don't make a fool out of them by screwing around with others. Leave that person because they deserve someone to keep them happy too. And once you find out someone's cheating on you DON'T say with them, you'll only make the rest of your life hell. Don't try to fool yourself into thinking that you can forgive them because you as a person should know your limits. Also the saying 'Once a cheater, always a cheater' holds a lot of truth.
*throws poo at cheaters*
Love to xiaxue!
Anonymous said…
I am think I am late but I think you should read this..

Alysia said…
I know this has no relevance but you look pretty with straight hair tied up :)
amy said…
amen. people are ridiculous to think otherwise.
Unknown said…
Do I think a politician having sex with who they want it wrong? No. But it's kind of bad when they are married and cheat on their SO. Wouldn't a divorce look much better on them instead of possibly getting caught in an affair?

-Bethany of bethsquidly.com
Missy Krissy said…
Right on! You would think they'd learn from all the other politicians fucking it up. But nope! "It won't happen to me. I'll be smarter." is their motto. But the truth has it's way of displaying itself front and center. The sad thing is how frequent this is becoming. I would be devastated if I ever found out a boyfriend or husband was cheating on me and then the whole world would know it. What a selfish man.
Anonymous said…
For once, I agree with what you wrote.
char said…
Thumbs up for your post. I couldn't agree more. It's time everyone learns to take responsibility for the choices they make in life.
Anonymous said…
That We-should-not-discriminate-against-so-and-so-they-have rights-too made me laughed so hard.

Like clearly spoken by a simpleton who wants to pretend to be open-minded and liberal but has zero thinking ability. So just cut and paste the whole such and such have rights crap.

Oh, pedophiles have rights too. And terrorists. And rapists. This has rights, that has rights, everything has rights. Nothing is ever wrong. It's all Rights Rights Rights.

Anonymous said…
hi xiaxue, what do you think about this? zoe raymond being 3rd party again http://www.facebook.com/pages/Alvin-Yuki/253711181424186
Anonymous said…
Another adulterer in the blogosphere zoe raymond. Curious to know what's your take on this

Anonymous said…
y no comments?
bumblejen said…
since you are at the topic of adultery, will be great if u could comment with regards to the latest saga of Zoe Raymond. Not sure if u have read the latest fb page that have garnered almost 2000 likes in a week ... it has been real interesting reading your blog and since ur fren did have some connections with this woman some 6 yrs ago...will be real interesting to see something from u...
Anonymous said…
Anonymous said…
Singapore can achieved what it is today in such short frame of time, is mainly because our founders are saints. People in public office must have a very strong morale value.
Anonymous said…
I totally agree with you. Seriously, I despise those people who always "forgive" those immoral acts. That's just screwed. They think that they're right to forgive such an act and pretend to act like an angel, when they're obviously not. They just have rotten morals to encourage such things. What they did not know is that they're actually encouraging and supporting adulterers to continue with their barbaric acts, and violate the rights to be a human. To be a human, is to live and act like one, wisely. If not, there'd be no clear line between wild animals and humans.
melisstarr said…
Hey Wendy, I'm sorry. This might be not a comment for your post but nonetheless I love you.

I just wanted to ask if you know about the scandal that's been going round on fb regarding Zoe Raymond being a 3rd party? Many of us were thinking if you are able to blog about it or even just talk about what u know about her to give her the very attention she so deserve. We know if you blog about it, she will have no more face to walk on the face of Singapore. She deseves to know she cannot always win and there is limit to being a bitch.

I feel really sad for the victim that was left broken hearted and torn. Do think about it and if you need, here's a link.https://www.facebook.com/?ref=tn_tnmn#!/pages/Alvin-Yuki/253711181424186 .

Take care of yoruself and can't wait to see your baby! :)

Your supporter always,
Anonymous said…
blog about the zoe raymond saga pls!
Anonymous said…
Well said! *Thumbs up*
Unknown said…
What you think about this?

Anonymous said…

Do you know about this? Seems like this girl Zoe Raymond had a bad record of being a third party in your best friend 9 years r/s?
Sharon R. Kwan said…
Well said and at last a well written piece.
Anonymous said…
Blog about Zoe Raymond's affair! :)

Anonymous said…
Awesome post! Totally agreed with it.
Singaporeans should see this and stop siding the wrong side.

Anonymous said…
OMG I totally agree with you on this one. A lot of people even submitted letters to newspapers saying that maybe he shouldn't have quit but that was just stupid.
Echoe Star said…
I literally posted something to my FB the other day about adultery. its not right at all! I agree w u girl
Anonymous said…
very good.. very true. adulterers are weak-willed and full of bullshit excuses.
Anonymous said…
This blog posting is being discussed here http://sammyboy.com/showthread.php?138010-Xiaxue-on-Micheal-Palmer/page3.
junz said…
I used to read your blog, but as time goes by, i got busier in life and I do not get to keep track of your recent posts as often as I did in the past. But once a while, like today, I will read your post in one shot and guess what? You made my day, with your sense of humor and your views on certain things. It's always that entertaining, and you always made me smile and giggle to myself. So here I am, dropping you a msg to say thanks! keep up the good posts.... =)
Anonymous said…
i love this! u r such a good writer, u wrote whatever is in my head except u have the talents to pen it down :)
Anonymous said…
I just love you, Xiaxue. Died laughing to this xD
I totally agree with what you said. WELL SAID! i wrote similar thing on TODAY and when my article was published, I was slammed by a few guys. Stupidity has no cure and so does ugliness. I support your piece babe.
Well done. well said. I wrote the same thing on TODAY which eventually got published. And guess what? got slammed by some stupid people who dont/cant read. There of course supporters too and I would like to say, I support your piece. Cheers!
Unknown said…
I 100% agree. Cheating is their choice, it makes me sick when they try to play the victim.
hurricaneamber said…
Very good post, Xiaxue! To be honest, I always said that what politicians do in their private life is their business.... but you really put it into good perspective and I see where you're coming from! I agree with you 100%! :)
Anonymous said…
Is the comment section working now? It's rare to see your blog with zero comment. Perhaps the world really has ended last week and I'm in heaven now...
Sean said…
Hi xiaxue, I'm not usually one who bothers commenting on blog posts / news articles on yahoo etc, but I must say that I thoroughly admire the level of insight and thought you put into the points you listed and elaborated on in this post! RESPECT!
S.T said…
I loved how you ended this post about "self-righteous anti-discrimination crap" and the part about "dancing naked in your backyard" totally made me laugh!! Thanks Xiaxue this was awesome and I totally agree that cheating is just stupid.
amelia said…
I am not from singapore but i agree with you opinion full-heartedly. today we try to give sympathy or give excuses for certain things that we should not approve of. ie: teen/young mothers who cant support their child. why should we excuse poor choices by saying "it was just a mistake"? yeah, it might be a mistake to the person after the fact, but they probably didnt feel like it was a mistake in the moment! their actions negatively affects more people than positively affecting them yet they still do it! im all for being understanding but certain actions are not and should not be justifiable.
Jon said…
what he did was definitely wrong, but i think we need to start giving second chances to people. because at least for me, i don't want to have the politician who hasn't made a mistake yet, i want a politician who made a mistake and learned from it.
Helen Lena Chap said…
interesting post! I found this pretty amusing lol
Anonymous said…
This is not intended for general viewing - more that I'd like your personal, female, stranger thoughts on this.
I'm female (28). I cheated once. A long time ago on my ex partner. I regret it, and feel like crap to this day bla bla.

With my current partner - honesty was our basic fundamental value.
He was my friend for a long time and I had told him about this.

Anyway, two years into this relationship, and my history is still an issue. Every time we fight, I'm pretty much made out to be a slut - not that he says it like that or nastily. More the fact that he's so preoccupied with my mistake.

When I say that I should not be punished forever for this one horrible mistake I made - his attitude is 'well... you think you can do things like that and not live with the consequences?'. To me, the consequence is the fact that I have to live with knowing that I did something a bad human would do. And I'm not a bad human - but I am with this (see the internal conflict).

So anyway, from a random person's point of view, do you agree with him? That even 10-20 years down the track, I'm still meant to be reminded regularly of this one mistake?

My emails unswmichelle@gmail.com

By the way, I've been reading your blog for about 6 months now (and I read into the past stuff). It's great :) It feels like you're living this dream that any girl would yearn for. Yet you created it all yourself.

My life looks perfect from any outsider's view, but I hate it so much I dont spend much time at home and I run away from Sydney (home) for most of the year. Work, holidays. Dont care, just dont want to be here and feel like a failure (not married/no kids - I'm Chinese lol).

Now after babbling on, I'm curious: overall, honestly, is what you display a true account of your daily happenings?

Damn, all these questions I've wanted to ask you since I started reading are all vomitting out of me. I'll stop.

Again, my emails unswmichelle@gmail.com if you feel the desire to reply.

Titania said…
I have to agree with this post. Someone who cheats on their partners for whatever the reason shouldn't even try to be defended, they are dirty scumbags. They deserve no trust, as the moment they jumped into bed with someone else, they lost all the right to any trust they ever had. Dirty people.
Travis said…
"I'd like to believe in the sanctity of marriage - one man and one woman (applicable also for homosexuals"

Omg I wanna give you a big fat kiss!!

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